#I wish my parents heard this
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I love this phrase so much because it encapsulates the essence of what separates a child from an adult. When a kid is wrong, theyāll throw a tantrum, leave the issue unresolved, and others are left dealing with the consequences. When an adult is wrong, sure they may whine and bitch for a bit like the kid, but when they finish they pick themselves up, and clean up whatever the mess is (literal or not)
I think we should have a turn of phrase for "I'm not in the right, but I AM annoyed with this situation, so I just need to go bitch to a friend about this before I suck it up and go do the right thing" because more and more I'm finding this is a critical element of functional adulthood.
#I wish my parents heard this#So many people need to hear this#this should be taught to every kid in elementary school#imagine how well adjusted kids would be if they were taught from a young age#to be able to admit their wrong doing#or even some adults#like former us president Donald J. Trump
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We all know Timmy is Wandaās mamaās boy but we need to keep in mind heās still Cosmoās kid too and that Cosmo would love him just as vehemently as Wanda
#fairly oddparents#not that anyone has portrayed him different#certainly not distance he loves Timmy he probably says it the most in the show and in fanon#but still- watching New Wish there felt like there was a disconnect with Cosmos character-like he wasnāt as well defined as he was in OG#thatās in part due to them toning him down from being an idiot plain and simple but I feel like it wasnāt fitted with something else it was#simply taken away#just to say he didnāt have as much of a presence to me in New Wish as Wanda did and I crave spinning Cosmo around in my brain#I want to see Poof being his Dadās Boy yknow and I want to see cosmo doting and I want to see when he gets like. parental rage for the sake#of his kids#yknow? Yknow? part of him feeling detached in a new wish has translated into him not wanting to get as close to Hazel as he did Timmy-#to try and play it more like godparents are supposed to- just a presence for a couple months#but also because like. he got SO attached to Timmy and heāll never regret it and heād never do anything different#but idk. if it were me I wouldnāt have the capacity to go through losing my godkid again after becoming that attached#thatās not even mentioning that they donāt HAVE to be in hazelās life the same way they were in Timmyās because Timmy was going through#neglect and Hazel has loving family and friends all around her at all times- her blocks are mental#in that way cosmo and Wanda just have to do the Typical Godparent Job of aiding her- not becoming people she desperately needs in life#which also bleeds into why I think Peri was having such a. difficult time#godparents arenāt supposed to be attached the way his family was to Timmy and that how he learned it#but his first godkid is Not Easy and lends immediately to the issues Timmy was having where he HAS parents he HAS things (though . Timmy#was not rich and would sometimes not be fedā¦ devās dad also forgets to feed him but dev is still able to eat you know)#and how he grew up with his parents as godparents and how heās been taught are conflicting and itās nature vs doing a good job quoteunquote#I didnāt mean to ramble so damn much in the tags Iām really sorry#told myself if I had more to say Iād write it down and post it later but I must be heard.
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i wish
i wish my irls listened to me more
#i only speak chaosā ā¹āāļ½”ā
ā ā¹#the queen of hearts' soliloquyāĖā¹ į„«į”.#in club today me and my bsfs were working in a trio for casting#but every time i suggested an idea theyd be like oh thats good but her ideas better#so because no one heard me out i ended up just being a side character helping them shine in our skits instead of actually getting my moment#and they only really listen when im venting and upset#and even then its not much#it happens to my mom too :(#i just wish#theyd stop and listen#which is why im working on opening up to my parents instead#because currently yall support and comfort me more than literally everyone else in my life does.
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Atla live action š
#thats my honest reaction š#to be fair ive only seen 20 minutes of the s1 finale bc my parents are watching it but. mmmmm kinda mid#like. the casting is definitely an improvement since the last time they tried a live action but it feels like the writing falls flat#or maybe im being harsh bc ive only heard negative criticism on it beforehand. but fr anytime u bring up the original its already#good and not just because its the original. so much fucking detail went into it to the point of someone noticing azula wielding mai's knive#to how well thought out irohs character is used as a way of uniting the cast especially as zukos foil#i heard that sokkas sexism was toned down and i have to agree that feels like a cheap move. like i get WHY they think it would be better#but its not about how that reflects on real world its about how it affects the story. sokka starts out as a misogynistic asshole because#it makes it that much more impactful when he changes. toning that down makes it flatter and makes his character development weak#and someone pointed out they didnt even make him wear the kyoshi warrior uniform and i know it feels like such a small detail but#come on man. they did that in the original because not only does it help him really walk in their shoes - wearing 'feminine' clothing and#makeup and having suki explain its significance but it also ties in with the shows theme of harmony and intersectionality#i was also disappointed when they had the fire sages explain how the water tribe draws power from the moon because in the original it was#IROH who explained it to aang and everyone else BECAUSE we as the audience is under the impression hes with the 'bad guys'#and it builds up to how he learned from the other nations which reconciles his past as a war general and his character overall#AND its an excellent starting point for the cast and audience to understand how the nations arent as closed off as you would think#plus you would think its only fire nation doing propaganda but they expanded on that with earth kingdom censorship and it WORKS#a lot of things in the live action also feel arbitrary like. they gave momo a near death experience for 5 minutes for no reason#im firmly on the stance of bringing back filler moments instead of putting major events right after each other so that u give your#audience a sense of time passing and to really absorb the story. but i think thats more like shock value than filler and yeah its a small#thing to gripe about but those things build up and its really annoying. the thing abt avatar filler moments is that however small#its at least meaningful. hell even the beach episode emphasizes how isolated zuko and his friends are as child soldiers#i also swore to never watch the first live action since it was that bad but i really liked the stylized tattoos they used for aang#anyway. those arejust my thoughts. im not gonna watch the rest because im a ride or die for the original aftr growing up and#rewatching it at least 20 times as a kid. but theres definitely room for improvement and i wish ppl wouldnt take it as 'better' just cuz#netflix is adapting it. i wouldve killed for them to just reanimate the entire avatar series and touch NOTHING ELSE no redub#no changes to the story. just reanimate the thing and leave the rest alone and youd make easy money just the same#ALSO its very jarring not hearing jack desena and dante basco voicing sokka and zuko cause their voices were the most recognizable to me#i get that its because its live action but im allowed to feel a little sad abt that. and uncle irohs accent was really soothing#yapping
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The weight of the world is a heavy burden
Especially for a child
(Or, in slightly less dramatic terms ā I imagine that the first of her past lives that Avatar Suiren [who is the Avatar after Aang instead of Korra in my AU, and also Ghazan and Ming-Huaās daughter] gets to talk to is Yangchen, because she is too plagued by memories not her own [including Jetsunās death, fun fact]. And Yangchen wouldnāt want another child to go through what she did on their own)
(Or maybe someone just needed an excuse to draw @katkastrofaās latest obsession in a context that interests them as well, just in time to maybe cheer her up a little? You canāt prove anything)
#my art#artists on tumblr#the legend of korra#Avatar Suiren AU#Kat and Nia and their multiverse of madness#yangchen#original character#sotrl suiren#if youāre wondering what the context is. Suiren is around 8 or 9 here. already having revealed herself as the Avatar to her parents#and it has been Hard. because as much as they try to maintain a sense of normalcy for her. itās clear that things have changed#they never accounted for their daughter turning out to be the Avatar. they hoped Aang dying on the night she was born to be a coincidence#all of their plans now have to be rethought and put on hold because her safety is more important than anything else#she is never blamed for anything. she is still just as loved. yet thereās now a heaviness in their gazes whenever they look at her#the Avatar as a concept should not exist. it is too much power and responsibility for one being who is ultimately human#thatās what Suiren was taught. so what do those teachings mean if sheās the Avatar?#basically.. a whole lot of cognitive dissonance and she hasnāt even been alive for a decade yet#and all her life her head was filled by strange memories and dreams. fragments of lives not her own. sometimes nightmares#and usually her mama would comfort her through it but tonightā¦ she just wants to be alone#so she wanders off. not too far. but enough that she wouldnāt be heard. and just softly cries#because itās too much. because she doesnāt want to be the Avatar. why her? why not anyone else?#and as she whispers that she wishes she wasnāt the Avatar. her mind is assaulted by memories of previous Avatars saying the same thing#it really is a never ending cycle of too much burden being placed on a single person. but that realisation is anything but comforting#she begs for it to stop because that grief of life over life spent pushing a boulder uphill is just Too Much#and before she knows it. it ceases. only to be replaced by a blue glow visible even through closed eyelids#and a feather light touch of hands on her face. it doesnāt feel exactly like human hands by virtue of belonging to a spirit#that helps her relax a little. reminding her of mamaās touch. she looks at the person who appeared before her. her mind supplies the name#āAvatar Yangchen?ā. she whispers. but the woman is nowhere near as stoic and peaceful as sheās shown to be in every depiction of her#she looks.. sad. concerned. as burdened by grief as Suiren herself is. sheās not just a legendary figure from a time long gone#not yet another past life Suiren would never measure up to. sheāsā¦ human. capable of human emotion. just like Suiren is#Iām not sure how their conversation goes and have no inspiration to come up with anything. but I just wanted to draw them interacting
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Y'all ever find a song that Hits and can't stop imagining an epic animation project with your OCs that will definitely never come to fruition because like
#LIKE REAL TALK WHY DIDNT I APPRECIATE THIS FILM IN MY CHILDHOOD#idc what anyone says this song is transmasc as FUCK and the way it fits my main boy Hamish is uncanny#'I am a question to the world/not an answer to be heard/or a moment that's held in your arms'#the idea of challenging (gender) norms and asking questions rather than simply answering to an authority#seeing themself as an individual rather than an extension of their parents' 'perfect baby' illusion they still have#THATS JUST THE FIRST FEW LINES#I COULD GO ON AND ON AND ON ABOUT HOW THIS SONG FITS HAMISH#SOMEONE SEND IN AN ASK BECAUSE IM NOT GONNA GO ON THAT TANGENT UNPROMPTED#GOD I wish I could animate
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gay marriage was still illegal the summer gravity falls takes place
and it wouldn't be fully legalized for another three summers
#god it was so recent#it's not even been a decade#i wish i had known back then#but honestly i had yet to find out gay was actually a thing#i wonder how my parents talked about it#i wonder what they voted#i was ten#and they probably voted against it#it happened over summer break#otherwise i would have heard at school#but no#i didn't even know it had been illegal#until maybe four years later#i think i found out while watching old youtube rewinds lol#i was confused when my dad told me being gay was a sin#i laughed at him#i thought no one actually believed that#silver lining of it all is that i got to form my own beliefs without the biases#good thing in the end i guess#sorry it's almost 2am so i rambling
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Sometimes it seems like the anti fandoms are more toxic than the actual fandom that the anti fandom people hate on, it's actually really sad.
MLP fans will know what I'm talking about
#I saw a post saying that they wish Taylor Swift's private jet would crash since that'd be upsetting towards her fans and people were saying#it's cause mass suicides which would be a good thing since Swifties are toxic#look. you can dislike a group of people/a fandom due to their behavior but that does NOT make it okay to say they should kill themselves.#I've seen lots of nasty posts about furries too#saying that people should kill furries like you would a deer (hunting) and saying that they should all die#just because you find something ācringeā doesn't mean it's okay to wish death upon people#someone pointed out that oftentimes hate towards furries (and other groups) is partially rooted in ableism (mostly towards autism) and LGBT#LGBTQ hate#since furries are oftentimes associated with those two groups#people hate on furries due to their hate on those other groups#there's really a lot of small forms of hate which cause even worse forms of hate#you can find something ācringeā but that does NOT make it okay to wish death towards people. especially those in groups oftentimes victims#victims of oppression#autistic lesbian here and I've heard many stories about autistic people being killed by their parents or caretakers#and sometimes I'm genuinely scared for my life#I loooooove my parents they really take good care of me but I've dealt with some absolutely horrible teachers#ramble over. I just had to get this off of my chest#I've been seeing a lot of negativity lately
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i found loads of pictures of my uncle i am going 2 cry
#he looked so sweetā¦..he looks SO much like my dad#i found the last picture of him that my granddad took a month or so before he died itās so sad#trying to decide if i should tell my mum that i know about him or if i should just keep it to myself#idk if somethings wrong with me maybe itās because i was already grieving before i found out#but itās really getting 2 me i canāt concentrate on my uni shit i just keep thinking about it#i think i rlly need to talk about it with someone but i have no idea who or how or what iād say. but itās weird because itās a secret yk#like iām not even supposed to know he existed#idk. i have a gender clinic appointment next week and iām going to ask if they can recommend any therapists#me being very very brave and trying therapy again after being forced into it my whole life and ending up a bit traumatised#idk. i feel bad that iām alive and iām wasting my life when my uncle got killed when he was just a kid#it makes me feel like i should be more grateful and do more with myself.#and i am going to try but iād rather he was here instead. same with my granddad#every time i experience something beautiful or good i wish my granddad could experience it because he deserved it more than me#and the best i can do is experience it for him and be grateful. but i would chance places instantly if i could#him and his kid deserve to be here they were so special. i know i donāt know his kid but iāve heard they were similar#so i know he must have been special too#i found a fb comment today from a family friend iāve never met and she was saying that she only met my granddad once#but she called him gentle and it made me cry. because he was very scottish and sweary and traditional and masculine#so everyone just assumed he was tough and scary but if you knew him he was really quiet and kind#and iām glad someone who only met him once could see that#iām going to be half asleep for the rest of my life i think. iāve been dreaming since my granddad died and i donāt feel like i ever woke up#nothing has felt real since i was nine years old. everything just stopped and never started again#iāve just been waiting. iām waiting for him to change his mind and come back. idk. i donāt know what to do with myself#and i continuously feel fucking insane and stupid for being this way. itās like fresh grief all the fucking time#but it was fifteen years ago. why does it still feel this way#i canāt even tell people because they wonāt understand why iām still so bothered by it#he was my parent for nine years. i lived with him he was my sole caretaker#i was nonverbal and him and my brother were the only people on the planet who knew what my voice sounded like#heād think it was silly if i failed my exam because i was crying about him instead#heād tell me to whisht and stick in. so i will
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ok im tired of complaining, lets all talk abt s2 in a positive way!!! the art is still good the soundtrack is still amazing, act 3 was just a bit.... but like not all the way
we got timebomb (which i didn't even ship until then) we got jayvik like come on man let's be happy (or not bc its arcane) i don't wanna be overly critical abt it i fucking love this show and most of the time i don't analyze shows this much. i enjoyed it while i watched it and that's all that mattered.
YIPPEE!!!
#it was kinda hard to enjoy it bc i heard my mom crying and since i hadnt heard my parents fighting#before that i got scared my grandma died and was#CONVINCED of it the whole time i watched at least the last 2 episodes#don't make me dislike my favorite show its still better than so many other shows#plssss i just wanna enjoy my show i wish they didn't get rid of all the political things it would've been perfect#dirt under your fingernails rlly???? vi don't look at yourself that way#anyways i miss s1 caitvi#let's freaking goo jayvik!!!!!#jayvik will save us#good art good songs PLSSSSSSS#arcane
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had a long talk with my mom over the phone about the new info on my dad, and she had a lot of good insight given that they dated in their 20s
all in all, just gonna try and work on letting myself feel however it is I feel about him having cancer (and our very distant relationship with each other) without trying to put the weight of how I think I should feel or act about it
#[static]#like i wanna be empathetic to him if he does want to reach out and want to mend things#but im also not going to be crying my eyes out in worry for someone who i dont know beyond his music career#and i genuinely wish it was different! i wanted to have a dad my entire childhood#and then i hit my mid 20s and realized that i'd never have that experience and that i'd rather just be friends but it's kind of hard-#- to be friends with someone who doesn't try or who flakes when plans do get made#i hope that he gets better and i cant imagine how scary it must feel and i wish him the best#but i think i feel bad that im not crying about it when i know most people would if they heard that about their parent#like if my mom was in the same situation i'd be weeping my eyes out of my head and driving over immediately
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i had the day off so i spent like five hours doing budgeting. jesus fuck why is everything so expensive
#i'd need to make over double of what i'm making now to be able to live on my own#either a.) without a car + with a roommate somewhere near the city#which means i'd have to learn to use the public transport here. i've looked into it and none of the bus lines go beyond a very limited part#of the metro area so i'd need to find work somewhere within there.#or b.) with a car + renting on my own somewhere further out. the commute would be ass and the car maintenance even assier#thing is i reallyā really need to figure this out because i NEED to get out of this house for good#after i graduate i cannot land back in here.#there's this really cute girl i met at the club last month and we've been talking a lot and i'd love to be with her and i know she would to#but she's trans and my parents would legit throw me out of the house if they found out#and she doesn't deserve to be hiddenā y'know? i want to be able to tell everyone i know and care about about us#but i just can't do that right now. and i hate the thought of missing out on relationships and stifling myself like this out of fear#i talk a big game sometimes but i'm TERRIFIED of the people and the things i've noticed i'm attracted and drawn to#because i know what my parents say about 'those' people. i've heard every mean-spiritedā downright disgusted thing they've said#and for all the smiles and the hugs my family throws my way i know what they are. i've seen the treatment they give queer family members.#i have an uncle who didn't speak to his daughter for almost a decade when she came out as a lesbian#it was only a couple years ago that they started to reconnect and she can't even bring her partner to family gatherings because it makes#people 'uncomfortable'#i'm sorry i'm rambling at this point but i just wish things would get a little easier. instead i feel all this pressure and everything#getting harder#nothing left to do except put on my big boy pants i guess#sansgwilie
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i'm back for just a moment to complain that a big spider just had BABIES in our tub
#my fiancĆ©e got all of them she could find but i'm worried there's more bc she only saw like 6-8 and i thought they had like 40 š°#i HATE this house. i wish my parents would do something about all the poor caulking or like#i've heard there's pet safe bug spray companies. ughhhhh#i'm trying so hard to push through it and the first couple years living down here were better but#i honestly think the exposure is making me MORE afraid of them#this sucks :(#darryl speaks
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Big day for the Sims 2
#WPVG#WPTS2#The Sims#The Sims 2#Things accomplished: Made ZEX and DAX and had them fall in love <3#Then moved in the Captain :3c For shenanigans#He looks like pirate fic!Captain lol#Made a set of I BELIEVE classic green alien boxers (lol)#And upgraded the Vargases' church so there is now a place to pee#And also the confessional booths are prettier - curtains! - and there's a little play area for kids and toddlers#I was gonna add a balcony but the windows got in the way :( Next time - in the real town when I actually move them in#I've also been working on the Vargases' clothes in the background - I am actively choosing to be very extra about Scriabin's coat lol#Does it even count if it doesn't have the wrist and waist ties tho - I think no#Which means hopefully! Soon!! I will actually have the correct clothes to move them into my actual real town!!#I went ahead and put their lots down hehe#Also planning on doing a Whole Thing with Squee - I've heard there's a way of setting up specific adoptions by timing CPS visits?#I haven't tried it myself and I'll make sure to save a version of him separately just in case but like#I think if I have his parents neglect him and he gets seized and then I have the Vargases call to adopt him he'll be like - queued first?#I think that's how that works... I wish it was like pet adoption where you could pick them out lol#I'm thinking about pulling a couple of the families I have set up there for now since I haven't been in the fandom for a while :P#I am absolutely planning to have ZEX ahem ''crossover'' with a few different households lol - definitely gunning for TSP Narrator lol#Also I gave him smile lines and aghfdsjahfa he's so cute I'm love#DAX just got a furrowed brow hehe <3 Their specific expression wrinkles! ā„#The Captain is so smooth-faced by comparison haha#The Sims 2 truly does emulsify my brain uou#SCII#Vargas
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[[vent in tags]]
#heard a guy on a podcast i listen to talk about being a father and it really hit me hard#he was talking about teaching his son how to brush his teeth when he was two (the son is an adult now)#but he handed the kid the tooth paste and his son took the tube and squeezed it so hard it exploded all over the bathroom#and he was angry but he just said ''well now we need a new tube of toothpaste buddy'' and laughed about it#he was talking about how wonderful it is to be able to teach a tiny human about the world and how rewarding it was to be a father#and i nearly started bawling#theres a lot pf things about my childhood ive convinced myself were normal and i mean i guess they were#trauma is common#but sometimes i still grieve the childhood i could have had and the father my bio dad could have been#if i had squeezed the toothpaste too hard as a kid my bio dad would probably start screaming at me or hitting me#he would always do that shit over small stuff#he did other things too like embarass me or leave me by myself in public places or forget to feed and bathe me#and for the longest time i convinced myself that was normal. or that other people had it worse and i should be greatful he wasnt worse#but stories like that really put things into perspective#i wish i could've grown up in a household where both of my parents loved me amd loved raising me#i wish my bio dad had been a decent person who treated me and my mom better#i wish i had squeezed the toothpaste too hard and he had laughed
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I really be cursed for everyone I meet to just end up using me huh
#I live the next town over from a college town#thatās like. everyone fucking hates the college kids#especially cause this particular school itās all just assholes with rich parents#unfortunately for me itās also full of cool looking alt people who keep fucking me over#cause I fall for the crust pants and platforms and cool hair#then suddenly Iām talking them outta suicide every night and basically parenting them#like full on making sure theyāre getting food this recent one giving him a place to crash so he didnāt have to live with his ex#driving them around paying for everything despite the fact theyāre unemployed and their rich ass parents buy them everything#meanwhile I actually work and am struggling to pay my bills every month#I canāt afford to feed myself but god knows theyāre getting everything they could ever want#and still being ungrateful and rude#and Iāll be like hey maybe u should go to a professional yk im not a therapist I canāt help with ur whole suicidal thing#and they get mad at me and throw me away cause oh no they have to work on themselves and take accountability#Iām not gonna keep spoon feeding some fucker whoās gotten life on a silver platter#idk thereās two very different sides to punks Iāve met#thereās either punks who are punk cause they have been through hell and fucked over by the universe and have a genuine understanding of the#beliefs it comes with and the morals#and thereās the punks who maybe sure like the music and the style but have never had to so much as raise their voice to be heard#never had to fight for anything#which isnāt inherently bad I wish I was that lucky#but theyāre never really aware of that privilege and just expect to be handed everything#and get pissed if they are expected to be held accountable for being an asshole#ghost rambles
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